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Living within my means. I don’t do this well all the time. Things come up, like an oil change or a case of pinkeye. But I try. I know I don’t have the money to go out to bars and restaurants, so I’ve stopped going. It hasn’t felt like a hardship, bars and restaurants just aren’t part of my life anymore. My entertainment has gotten cheaper: running and knitting and reading, all things I can do for almost free. This is the most challenging thing I am doing in my twenties to make my thirties better, but it also has the highest rewards. If I can live on less than a thousand bucks a month (and I have yet to see if this is true but this is the goal), then imagine how much I’ll be able to save when I’m earning more.
Let’s see how well I fare on this list…
25 things I can do in my 40s that I couldn’t (or wouldn’t) do in my 20s:
- Stop drinking after one cocktail ✓
- Cook dinner 6 nights a week ✓
- Wear sunscreen
- Watch TV on a Friday night ✓
- Relish time spent alone ✓
- Rise at 4 A.M.
- Take pride in my working class background
- Leave a 20% tip
- Ignore celebrity gossip ✓
- Be the designated driver
- Pay off credit card balances every month
- Be seen in public without make up ✓
- Give to charity
- Hunt for bargains at thrift shops
- Drive a station wagon
- Make saving for retirement a priority
- Regard full-time parenting as a worthy profession
- Go to the grocery store in sweatpants ✓
- Stay home on New Years Eve ✓
- Skip dessert
Okay, so I guess for the most part everything I’m missing has to do with growing up/having a job. Though I should stilll wear sunscreen, skip dessert, and pay off my credit-card balance more regularly
I like his answer:)
I would say to myself:
- don’t be so concerned about whether you’re cool enough or not, the people you are hanging out with are going to change in ways you have no idea of now
- do not date someone because you have a huge crush on them, or they have one on you. Learn from your teenage relationships and try to grow up to find people who you are actually compatible with
- look at yourself. Do you know what you like? Do you just like things that the people you admire like? Seriously get to know yourself. Don’t make your decisions based on what other people think of you, or what you think they want from you. Be aware enough to know when you are doing this, and move away from it. Your actual desires and intentions will always come up to the surface eventually, so if you are pretending, know that you will one way regret it. We all have to face our true selves someday. Never run from yourself!
- don’t be worried about having the best friends or the right friends right now. Prioritize learning who you are, how you want to be, what feels right to you, and the people you will attract into your life will be much better matched to your inner self than if you don’t follow your heart, or if you try to force yourself to be someone you’re not.
- do not think that you will be a better person tomorrow! Whatever you do today, makes it more likely you will do it the next day. Habits are built subtly, day by day, and bad habits are so hard to break, it is so much better to just prevent them by keeping an inquisitive, alive outlook
- seriously be okay with being different. Embrace it. Don’t run away from your own strangeness.
- try meditation : )